Showing posts from November, 2013


Performers dilemma.  Onstage you are everything. Offstage you are nothing. - stage is fleeting and temporary, off stage is everything.  Perhaps, it is the stage of life which sustains such questions. We are only as fine as our last performance, but every day is an opportunity. 

Singing in Harmony

Harmony is about connection and diversity of thought and action within the context of a singular purpose. Unity is not conforming to a singular collective action. It is an understanding that the plan for our lives is set in front of us individually and passionately, but we are called to sing our parts, in tune, and on the same sheet of music.

"Let the peace of Christ keep you in tune with each other, in step with each other. None of this going off and doing your own thing. And cultivate thankfulness. Let the Word of Christ—the Message—have the run of the house. Give it plenty of room in your lives. Instruct and direct one another using good common sense. And sing, sing your hearts out to God! Let every detail in your lives—words, actions, whatever—be done in the name of the Master, Jesus, thanking God the Father every step of the way." Colossians 3:15-17 MSG

Short Bio for 2013, Jeff Prillaman, Virginia Tenor

Virginia Tenor, Jeff Prillaman is the co-founder of Da Capo Virginia, an experienced business man, and a passionate advocate for music education, experiences, and inclusionary excellence.  He hasenjoyed a variety of solo engagements in both national andinternational venues and holds a Master of Music from the Juilliard School and a Bachelor of Music from Westminster Choir College in addition to a certificate in management from the Darden School of Business at the University of Virginia. His long time love for Bel Canto, oratorio, and traditional tenor concert repertoire fromDonizetti to Verdi and Puccini has recently evolved to an intensive study of the songs of Franz Liszt and an exploration of American songs from hiscolleagues and contemporaries.  In 2010, he debuted “Come Thou Fount” a song cycle written specifically for him and based ontraditional sacred harp tunes by Dr Charles Hulin IV of Southeastern University. A professional recording of this exciting cycle is set for public …

Leadership:Skill Required -- Saturday morning coffee and the Harvard Business Review from 2002

"essence of leadership lies in the capacity to deliver disturbing news and raise difficult questions in a way that moves people to take up the message rather than kill the messenger"

" can lead and stay alive—not just register a pulse, but really be alive. But the classic protective devices of a person in authority tend to insulate them from those qualities that foster an acute experience of living. Cynicism, often dressed up as realism, undermines creativity and daring. Arrogance, often posing as authoritative knowledge, snuffs out curiosity and the eagerness to question. Callousness, sometimes portrayed as the thick skin of experience, shuts out compassion for others."

"Do not underestimate the difficulty of distinguishing self from role and responding coolly to what feels like a personal attack—particularly when the criticism comes, as it will, from people you care about. But disciplining yourself to do so can provide you with an anchor that will kee…

Fluff and change

Social media is about more than fluff… It is about relationships. Specifically relationships which cannot be maintained or sometimes initiated across geography and time any other way. Take it seriously and learn to use it.

If we embrace a call to marginalize such a powerful tool (bridging both collaboration and communications) we say more about ourselves and a lack of ability than we do about the tool.
Learn how to use tools friends.  It takes practice, and real relationship skills for real relationships.

Post, own your words, be accountable and understand and tolerate dissent.  Recognize that a social media "feed" is not a linear event and adjust your speech and communications methods intentionally.  Embrace and explore what you can do with the tools and then… 

Go out to dinner with your real family and close friends face to face and talk politics, religion, relationships… future… Things that matter.  Face to face.  

Find YOUR balance and manage it.  

Most importantly, love …

Respect, Hope and Change.

Lesson to the young, and even to the not so young.

You should respect elderly people.. seriously.. They didn't get that way by being stupid, no matter what you think.

Look at the entirety of their lives.. their families, their legacies, their possessions, and their reputations.. All play a part. Learn from them.. and make progress, but first you have to do at least as well as they did. Be careful when you deconstruct. The void is usually worse than the previous. We can't disregard so easily without providing better options… for educations, experiences, relationships, and yes.. possessions and abilities.

-- That said, we can't stay where we are either. Clearly what we have done in past got us here. For things to change, something has to change.

What a different world it would be if kids were taught directly to embrace what their parents know.

Instead, today's kids see it as a rite of passage to show their disrespect for their elders often by promoting thoughts of HS an…